Well, you’ve joined the website, talked to your friends, gotten up the courage to talk to that guy you like or been asked out. Whatever the journey you got here: The First DATE!!
What happened to the date. Most women aren’t really asked out anymore or really given the opportunity to say they went on a date. It’s just hanging out or getting coffee or a drink. So the lines of date and non-date are pretty blurry but if you happen to find yourself on a proper date or feel you are on a date GOOD FOR YOU!
So, there’s sure-fire ways of being impressive on a first date and we’ll start with wardrobe: the booby top. Yes, it’s obvious, but again, it works! The v-neck, push-up-bra necessary top that you own that makes your ta-ta’s look great! You know the one. The one your mother would scowl at if she saw you leaving the house this way. If not a booby top than at least no t-shirts that sag and say, “I’m a frump!” The perfect pair of jeans or trousers that make that behind look plump, round, and smooth. Not the ones from the eighties with a waist higher than normal or any kind of “mommy” jean. Which leaves make-up, hair and accessories, which truthfully men don’t really notice.
They are checking out your body. Make no mistake, he’s thinking the whole time about whether or not you’ll sleep with him. That’s all he cares about on the first date. He’s wondering if you’ll let him sleep with you. So, being overtly flirty isn’t really necessary. Holding a conversation and making things casual is the best way to get him off his sexy fantasies in his head and actually get-to-know you. Humor is the quickest way to a man’s intellect short-circuiting his other brain. Making jokes, figuring out his sense of humor, and getting him to talk about himself are your job. Then stop. Does he do the same things back? Is he asking you questions? Or is he just staring at your boobs all night? Does he listen to answers and then have something to say? Bonus brownie points if he actually lets you talk as much as him!
Okay, you’ve made it to the end of the first date, laughing and talking and sparing with each other in a good way. Hands should be touching because he broke the personal space barrier already or you have. It’s appropriate at this point for you to think about whether or not you want to kiss him. Does he seem interested in a kiss? Has he made a romantic impression on you? Has he been a gentleman and cared to let you talk and listened? He deserves a kiss. But, it can be awkward to kiss someone you don’t know that well. So, here’s your other job, go from hand touching to body touching in a really subtle way. Maybe your whole arm ends up around the trunk of his body, or his shoulders, or a leg ends up pressed up against him somehow. 🙂
I’ll let you decide the details, but you’ve just upped the touching level to another one, how did he take it? Does he pull away, did he keep the contact going or does it seem as if he didn’t notice? He might not be into you like you are into him. This is good to note now. Now you can kind of relax and realize it’s a friend you’ve just made so you wait the requisite 2 months to talk to him again and maybe keep a friend or just let the night lights go out on that guy. Plus, maybe the touching doesn’t set off any sparks or butterflies for you? You won’t know until you try? But if you’ve tried and failed, then it’s time to end the date gracefully.
Ending a bad date is a lot harder than it sounds. You want to be polite and not crush the guy, but you can’t lead him on. He’s still on the sex, even though you distracted him a little bit, he’s still there and won’t get the stop sign you’re giving unless you pull the brake too. That’s not a hand job joke. He won’t really pick up on subtly like not touching, moving farther away, not talking, or not making eye contact, which he should, but he’s a guy. So, you might have to actually say something like: “I’m glad we did this but I don’t really think we make a great couple. I don’t want to give you the wrong impression, but I’m getting more of a friend vibe from us.” He may try to argue. It will be sad and pathetic. Keep to your point, you’re not interested. Keep those words coming out of your mouth whenever you can fit them in. A good guy will accept it or even agree. It would be easier if he agrees and says good-bye like a man, but you might have to be the bigger person and finally end the conversation.